july 1st, 2022

i believe in the notion that love is heavily motivated by one person seeing in another person some quality (or qualities) that they
feel they lack in themselves, & because of this i think that any time someone tells me that they love me i will have the immediate
temptation to ask them up front, "do you see one or more qualities in me that you feel you lack in yourself?" i don't think i would
actually do it though, because it would feel... i don't know, invasive, maybe sort of accusatory? or mocking? or like it's foisting
that particular conception of love on them in an attempt to pry out some kind of underlying secret right from the get-go?